I'm Sophie Harper, creator of Not By Accident podcast and single mother to Astrid, who's three.

Now and then we can decide to make a choice, to take action and to set life on a new course. We don’t have to just accept our circumstances. We can make life more what we want it to be.

The day after my 38th birthday, I called a clinic and booked an appointment to talk about choosing a donor and getting pregnant. I was single and had hoped I’d find myself in a happy, healthy relationship with someone who wanted to embark on parenthood with me. That didn’t happen and didn’t look like it was about to, so I felt I had to take action before it was too late. Now I have a wonderful daughter, Astrid, and absolutely no regrets.

This project has been a long time coming. For the past five years I've been using my audio recorder like a camera or sketchbook. I have more than a hundred hours of recordings: my first visit to the insemination clinic, my journey to the hospital once labor was underway, my daughter’s first birthday, and hundreds of conversations with family and friends detailing the ups and downs along the way. These recordings are the foundation of our story.


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I have launched a fundraising campaign to help keep the series going strong. You can donate through the Australia Cultural Fund until the end of August.

Donations are in Australian dollars (AU$10 = US$7.50 or 5.80 GBP). For Australian taxpayers it’s even tax deductible. If you’d like to support the production of this series, I’ll be hugely grateful! Here’s the link: https://australianculturalfund.org.au/projects/not-by-accident-podcast/



Not By Accident was featured on storytelling podcast Strangers by Lea Thau, part of Radiotopia and KCRW’s Independent Producer Project.

Strangers by lea thau

Sophie was Dan Lizette’s guest for a recent episode of The Podcast Digest.

The Podcast Digest

Not By Accident was featured in Danish magazine Re-cast. Sophie’s interview is in English.


SRSLY, the pop culture podcast from the New Statesman, featured a discussion of Not By Accident. (Episode 43, beginning at 16.22)

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